Communication In Marriage

"When entering into a marriage one ought to ask oneself: do you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this woman/man up into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time you are together will be devoted to conversation." Friedrich Nietzsche

Free and open expression of thought is a basic ingredient of a healthy marriage. A good conversation is when you are both contributing to the conversation. When you are having a good conversation with your spouse, you are both giving each other your undivided attention.

If you both ever reach a point of not having anything to say to each other, the marriage is in trouble. Hence you need to work on the issue by trying to understand why is it that you both are running out of topics to talk to each other.

There are a lot many needs that conversation fulfills. Let your conversation be a channel to express your dreams, desires, anxiety, concern and preferences. Although the news, weather, money, household chores,TV serials, friends and neighbors are all topics to be discussed but don't let them be the main focus of your conversation or rather the only topics of your conversation.

Needs that conversation fills :

 To be connected to another.

 To have your feelings and thoughts heard and respected.

 To learn new things.

 To sort through issues and problems.

 To discuss and explore solutions.

 To reach an understanding of one another.

 As Andre Maurois, French novelist and essayist, wrote, “ A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.”